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Information is power. If you have any questions that have not been answered here on the site, please do not hesitate to reach out and ask. What is your go-to for stress reduction? Often, we know what makes us feel better when we are stressed. It is very individual. What one person finds soothing, the other may find totally annoying or unhealthy. I have been hearing this often recently when it comes to sex, especially from people who had great sex lives before COVID struck.
Some people are responding to the stress caused by living in a pandemic by feeling increasingly horny, while others have watched their sexual desire drift away just like toilet paper and disinfectant wipes off the grocery store shelf. Either way, you are Women want sex Brunswick a normal reaction. There are many really good reasons for either behavior. On the other hand, we are living in an exceptional time right now.
Even though the curve is starting to flatten, we are not out of the woods yet, or even close, which le to a lack of control, more uncertainty, and therefore more stress. How long is this going to last? What are the economic consequences? What are the sociopolitical consequences? With so many unknowns coupled with the stressful realities of the here and now, another normal response is to lose interest in sex.
Contrary to other historical periods, the birth rate is actually expected to decrease. Corona as in virus, not beer is making many people feel very un-sexy. People cope with stress in different ways.
The question is what do you do about it when this is causing tension in your relationship? At the most basic level, you need to talk about it. Have you ever had a conversation with your partner about sex? If the answer is no, you are not alone. Many couples, even those who have been together for decades find it very difficult to discuss sexual relationship issues.
Why is sex so hard to talk about? Yes, that is what people in the sex-positive community believe. However, that is not how many of us were educated. Shame and secrecy continue to be pervasive attitudes around sexuality. This makes sex very difficult to discuss, even with the person you may be closest to. This le to lost opportunities for having a healthier sex life and getting the sex you want.
Communication is the most important element to help you understand the discord. Here are a few tips to help you start the conversation:. Plan for a conversation at a time and place that feels comfortable. A spontaneous conversation in the bedroom after a heated moment of incongruity is not the optimal time to have Women want sex Brunswick conversation. This helps with reducing defensiveness.
It is always best to let your partner know what you want, what works, and feels great. Try not to focus on what is wrong, but what is right. This can help develop understanding and compassion. Some sample questions could include:. I suggest that each partner come up with their own set of questions. This could be a great time to get to know your partner better and to have fun, trusting, and meaningful conversations. Be curious. Commit to getting to know your partner and yourself better than you have before.
This is also a good time to spend thinking about what you desire most in your relationship, what has been really great, and what could use some improvement. Keep a journal, look at your thoughts on paper before you share them with your partner. This can help to create some space and lead to new opportunities. If you find that you need some more help either individually or as a couple, many therapists are offering virtual support right now.
Remember to be kind to yourselves, be authentic, and really spend some time to remember what is most important to you. This time will pass, but in the meantime, you need to stay safe, sane, and excited for a sexual relationship that works for you. If I have not addressed your concerns or you have other sexual health questions, I want to know. Please reach out to me with your questions or comments right here. In the meantime, stay healthy. Susan Kamin is a certified nurse midwife and a sexuality health counselor.
After many years of helping people give birth and be born, she is now providing personalized integrative well women care at Lifecycle Women's Health in Readfield and Brunswick, Maine. She enjoys sharing her wisdom in the hopes of helping people find pleasure, knowledge, and empowerment in their bodies as they go through all of life's transitions.
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